Pet Peeve #1

I have decided to make my blog an ongoing list of things I hate. Why? Because I am annoyed right now. Making a hate list might seem juvenile. But this is my blog! And I can do whatever I want with it! And after all, at the end of the day I'm expressing my thoughts and opinions what. Cheh.


Ok. From the title of this post you might think that the following rant is in reference to the thing I hate most in this world. But it's not. Because there are a lot of things that annoy me so immensely that I can't decide which is more annoying. So the list shall be chronological. As in, I shall number them according to whichever is the most recent one I can think of.


Ok. Pet peeve for today is: people who try to use emotional blackmail. That is, who try to induce guilt in order to get you to say something nice to them, or do something for them, or basically influence you to act in a way that you would not or did not previously think of doing.


Let's get this straight: I don't mind if you say it jokingly. For example, if you are reminding me to wake up early so we can, say, go to the market to buy food. Knowing me, the conversation would go something like this:


You: Eh Mel. Don't forget tomorrow we go Vic Mart yah. You have to wake up!


Me: *puts on innocent expression* Of course I'll wake up! Who do you think I am? I am extremely diligent and hardworking! There is no need for these constant reminders!


You: Hahahaa. Oh yeah. You'll wake up because you just loooove leaping out of bed at 7am in the morning. How could I forget? That's why you never miss your morning lectures. Silly me.


See? That, my friend, is sarcasm. I can take a heavy, heavy dose of it, largely thanks to erm everyone I know? Somehow I seem to inspire a lot of sarcastic cracks. I wonder why? *ponders* After all, I am angelic and ever-innocent...


Now, what I can't stand is when people take things personally and don't trust the things I say and sulk. And need babying. This is not to say that I never ever have done the same thing. And this is not to say that I cannot stand it at all. Sure, I'll baby you for a while if I feel it's worth the time and effort, and I don't have anything better to do like sleep. But the thing that really gets to me is if I've already explained myself. And I have already somewhat compromised and given in and conceded that I am kind of sorry for offending someone. And they STILL SULK. And they harp on misunderstandings. For example, let's take the market example again:


You: Eh Mel. Don't forget tomorrow we go Vic Mart yah. You have to wake up!


Me: *puts on innocent expression* Of course I'll wake up! Who do you think I am? I am extremely diligent and hardworking! There is no need for these constant reminders!


You: Hahahaa. Oh yeah. You'll wake up because you just loooove leaping out of bed at 7am in the morning. How could I forget? That's why you never miss your morning lectures. Silly me.


Me: Hehe. Ok ok I shall wake up k. Call me when you wake up.


You: I haven't had anything to cook for a week already because of someone. Damn lazy lar you. Such a pig. Sure get fat wan.


Me: What?! Don't curse me lah. Anyway I promise you already it won't happen tomorrow. Sorry lar you got no food. I feel damn bad already lah.


You: Haha no lah don't feel bad. It's ok. Even if you don't wake up tomorrow I'll just go without you. Because I know my hunger is not a good enough reason for you to relinquish a few hours of sleep.


GAH. Even making up this example annoys the shit out of me! (It's purely fictional k. Don't anyone call me up later and go "I where got say liddat?! You framing me ar, now?!")


It's like...people already say sorry. People already promise you something. Some more you want to rub it in and say it's ok, then turn around and in the same sentence go and say your hunger not enough reason for them to sacrifice sleep. You can apply this example to almost any other situation. Imagine a bf and a gf. The gf want the bf to fetch her here and there cos she got no car. Or even worse she got license and got car but she don't drive. But sometimes the bf got other things to do. Or he's just plain tired. Imagine this situation when the gf calls the bf one day:


Gf: Eh lou kong ar. I finish college edi. Come fetch me go for mega sale at Sungei Wang.


Bf: Huh...Sungei Wang?? So far la...now got traffic jam also. And I very sleepy now cos last night I do homework until very late. I wanted to take a nap. You ask your other friends give you lift la ok?

Gf: Oh. So you'd rather sleep than spend time with me lah. I just thought that you might miss me and want to see me but obviously not lor. Ok lor never mind. I ask my other friend to take me lah. You sleep lah. *puts down phone*


ARGH! For God's sake man...wtf?! That is just...so...infuriating!!!! He give reason already what! And it's a legitimate reason! Sleep is importnat what! The gf want him go with her what for? He'll be a sleep deprived zombie! Then when she ask "Do I look fat in this jeans?" he will just go "yeah yeah" then EVEN WORSE lor!


Anyway the point is. Be considerate lah. Not that he dowan to send. It's that he's tired and its a long journey. He explain that already but instead of doing what a logical, considerate, rational person would do, she make all sorts of assumptions. Grrrrr. And then go and take things personally and, this is the important part! Didn't get mad you know. Never get mad! Instead she "accepts" it while throwing in a barbed "casual" comment to make him feel damn friggin bad about it. THAT IS SO FRIGGIN ANNOYING.


I hate hate hate hate hate it when people do this! I simply cannot stand it. Normally when such a thing happens I just keep quiet and say nothing. Which probably makes the other person feel worse because when they use this tactic, they expect a "oh no lah, sorry la, i will make it up to you by climbing mount everest and bungee jumping down from the top so that I will be all over the news and can procalim my apology to you loud loud to the whole world". Sometimes, depending on the situation, I'll try to be like that la, for a while. But most of the time, I get very pissed. Because this is a childish and low thing to do. That's why it's called emotional blackmail mah. So I just shut up and refuse to indulge the other person lor.


Wow this was meant to be a short posting. Look how long it turned out to be. See lah this is proof of how annoyed it makes me! Grrrr. I shall continue the list in the future lah.