*stretch*
Am so tired. I think I'm the official MUOSS fairy floss lady. People kept on commenting on how "expert" I'm getting at getting the fairy floss to make a nice round shape on the stick. I even have theories on making the perfect fairy floss, it all depends on wind direction and speed, and which side of the machine you're standing on. Heehee. Once again, I was covered head to toe in fairy floss after manning the machine again for today's event. Occurences of note: Bloody Fabian burst a water balloon on my head! It went something like:
*sploosh*
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
Fabian: *nonchalantly, with blur/innocent expression* I just wanted to make sure the water balloons work.
Me: @#$%^&*@#$%^@#$%^@#$%^&*@#$%^&*
*chase ensues*
I swear, one day, when he least expects it...somebody's gonna get hurt reallll bad...>;)
I remember a time when we used to ooh and aah over someone we knew getting a girlfriend or boyfriend. Those days, getting attached was rare, probably because we were so young. Nowadays, having a partner is almost a given, being single is a lifestyle choice, and almost every single conversation I have with anyone inevitably throws up the do's, dont's and analysis of relationships.
Yes, they are a fascinating subject, partly because everyone treats them differently. It's funny how people come to me asking me for advice when the only advice I can give them is from my point of view, which has been largely shaped by my past boyfriends and our unique experiences, which probably don't apply to anyone else.
And the thing is, opinions change. A few years ago, I thought that liking someone else when you already had a partner showed weakness of character, made you disloyal, promiscous, BAD. Now? I think you can't choose who you love, and if you happen to be with someone else and you meet someone you love more, then...it's unfortunate. But ultimately unchangeable. And if someone has to be hurt because of bad timing, better now than later.
**Disclaimer: Of course, this doesn't mean that I approve of serial break-uppers who flit from person to person and uses this as an excuse lah. This opinion of mine applies in cases of REAL FEELINGS ok. And assumes you have the capacity to know when they are real and when they are not. Don't later come say I player :P
I used to think there was such as thing as MY TYPE. Now I know there isn't. Like I said, you can't choose who you love, and the people I'm attracted to are NOTHING like the mental picture I used to have of the perfect bf.
I used to think there was only one type of love. Now I know there are shades of grey, and some types are equally strong, making it impossible to choose the person you love the most. But ultimately you have to, and how you make this decision depends on what type of love you think you want in your life, and what you want in life in general. Which of course, varies with the individual. Some people want marriage and 2.5 kids, in which case they might choose someone they see themselves growing old with, the dependable, reliable one, over the person who makes their heart race and sparks fly every time they touch.
There are relationships I can't fathom. People who shouldn't be together who are together. A person who likes another person whom they shouldn't. People who are perfect for each other who aren't attracted to each other. Obviously if everybody in the world listened to me, they'd all be happily attached *like, duh* But this just goes to show the individuality of each relationship, all the different variables at work which outsiders just can't begin to attempt to judge. You can't look at a couple and say that they're not doing it right just because they don't go out to dinner or have walks on the beach like other couples do. Maybe they like it that way. Or maybe one of them's allergic to sand :P
Then we have the messy break ups. We have the people who are able to revert back to the "friends" stage of the relationship, like nothing ever happened between them. We have those who avoid each other like the plague for years. Or, the worst kind, the kind where ONE of them avoids the other, while the other desperately pursues them in search of closure. Guess which kind is the one that ALWAYS happens to me. *wry smile*
I once told one of my exes to never ever let me break up with him. I actually thought, at the time, that he was the one I wanted to be with forever, and if somehow I was ever stupid enough to change my mind, I would be making the biggest mistake of my life. So I asked him to refuse to let me break up with him, no matter what. Now THAT was the biggest mistake I ever made. I don't know if he actually remembered that, but breaking up with him was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Why can't ending a relationship ever be quick and clean? If anybody ever wanted to break up with me, I'd ask for a reason and leave. Why drag it out any longer? They don't want to be with you anymore, and that's that, no matter how idiotic their reason might be. They don't need you to try to convince them that they're wrong, if they really are, they're going to realize it sooner or later (I say this now, but someday I might change my mind :P)
And then, increasingly, we have the long distance relationships. What ever happened to the simple days when everyone studied in the same country and the farthest they ever got from each other was the occasional CNY/Hari Raya/Deepavali trips to balik kampung? Now, going overseas to study has become much more normal that it used to, and couples have their days numbered. Some survive the separation, most don't. After all, a major component of being in a relationship is the physical aspect of it - being able to be within close proximity of someone you love. Whether or not a couple can make it through a long distance is a combination of personalities, luck and circumstance. So why ask someone else whether you should try a long distance? How would they know? Just because it failed for them doesn't necessarily mean it'll fail for you. I asked this question at a gathering we had once, and not surprisingly, 90% of the guys said a flat no, that long distance can't work. PAH. I know people who are making it work. And I know people who are still infatuated with each other, despite having gone on with their lives and meeting new, potentially interesting/interested people. Why? Because despite the temptation, no one else comes close to the one they already have. That being said, whether or not they resist the temptation depends wholly upon themselves. Me? Imma angel *cue bright, shining halo*
Eegh, this is starting to sound like a lecture. Too much talk about relationships lately's been getting to me, I think. Ooh, btw will have induction trip pics up soon. I gotta whole CD of them! Wheeee :D
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